Once again a New Year is upon us and with it, the pressure to commit to some life-changing resolutions. It’s a great time to re-evaluate your personal or professional goals and way of living. Often you will hear people say they want to keep an exercise routine, eat healthier, be more patient, work towards a promotion, apologize to enemies, or pay off debt… But don’t forget to make your relationship a priority in your resolutions as well!
We often break these commitments and who could blame us when there’s no accountability? It can feel easy to walk away from an agreement that you make with yourself but it’s even more difficult to walk away when you have a partner or workout buddy. So let’s make a pact, that New Year’s resolutions should be entered into with another person. Grow within yourself and give back to the universe!
5 resolutions for the new year:
1. Do “Good Things” together (and not just around the holidays). Everyone feels generous around the holidays, and in December, soup kitchens get so many volunteers that they have to turn helpers away. These organizations need volunteers desperately at other times of the year, so you and your sweetie will make a huge impact if you skip the Christmas day goodness and volunteer year-round instead. If you’re a Christmas lover, do your good deeds on the 25th of each month. It’s the gift that keeps on giving!
2. Show More Affection and Praise. If you’ve been with your loved one for more than a few years, your displays of affection towards one another have probably started to wane. This is a real shame because a simple little compliment or a kiss on the cheek can do wonders for your partner’s self-esteem, not to mention earn you some serious brownie points.
A Special Couple’s Resolution for Love & Gratitude: Praise each other at least once a week. This could be as simple as a compliment about your partner’s clothes, hair or how wonderful they smell. Then every now and again go the extra mile by giving your partner a sweet card or bunch of flowers to congratulate them on an achievement or to show appreciation for something they did for you.
3. Save Money. Make this year all about saving money, and do it together. Once a week or once a month, depending on your expenses and budget, put money away into your savings account and at the end of the year put that money towards paying off the big bills that you still owe. Reaching your goal to pay off a loan will lift a big weight off of your shoulders, plus it will leave extra savings to finally do the things you’ve been wanting to do.
4. Get Adventurous. To ensure quality time together many couples take the initiative of scheduling ‘date nights’ which, let’s face it, often consist of routine outings to the cinema, theatre, or fancy restaurants. These are all perfectly good ways to re-connect with your partner after a few busy weeks at work. They do, however, run the risk of growing repetitious and rendering ‘date night’ one big drag that you both feel locked into. Break the cycle by introducing activity-based dates: dates where you have to participate in an experience together such as cooking classes, horseback riding, paddle-boarding, hiking, or even jet skiing. These dates are not only excellent for relationship bonding, they’re also a great way to extend yourself and learn new skills.
5. Break Your Bad Relationship Habits. Bad relationship habits can be defined as those unseemly behaviors that both you and your partner practice. Typical examples include streaming episodes of Man Men until 2am when you both have work the next day, never making the bed, sleeping in until lunchtime on weekends, or allowing the dirty dishes in the sink to pile up. These unhealthy patterns are all the harder to break since you have your partner enabling them, and vice versa. This is why a joint stand is necessary.
We wish you a happy new year and cheers to a fulfilling 2016 of love and joy! xoxo